10 Essentials For Self Development

Introduction To Self-Development:

Estimated reading time : 10 minutes

Let’s be honest, trying to grow from experience alone will not build us up. We must be intentional in goals for self-development. Self-development is described as the gradual development of a person’s character or abilities.

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

When attempting to develop ourselves, laziness and procrastination can really hinder us if we let it roam without mentor-ship. That is why it is crucial to focus on self-development to improve our core behaviors and skills.

Some people may fear self-development as it requires tremendous effort in areas like consistency and accountability. This fear can lead us to suffer from Limiting Beliefs, where we can believe that if we are not good at something, we will never be.

“Everyone has Limiting Beliefs in certain areas. Anytime you use the words “I can’t,” “I have to,” or “I’m not good at,” you’ve discovered a potential Limiting Belief. Most of the time, taking a moment to consciously question the belief is all you need to do to break it.”

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Is It Worth It?

Some of us who may be struggling with the self-development process may wonder if it is worth it. Yes! With absolute certainty it is worth it in my humble opinion.

One thing I have learned since starting my own self-development journey is that I had to adjust my study habits to retain information more effectively. I got the opportunity to learn more about myself, and was able to complete goals I was procrastinating on because I was not functioning at my optimal potential.


If you have not started your path to self-development yet, I strongly urge you to start now! I am still growing in my own self-development phase as I procrastinated more than the typical person should. After two months within my journey, I have seen significant improvement. My mindset is healthier than ever, giving me more clarity on the decisions I make and their rewards or consequences. With all that said, I still have a long way to go, mountains to climb and valleys to claw through.

Step 1 | Write Down Your Goals:

It is important to channel our desires of growth from our thoughts to something tangible like a vision board or piece of paper. Writing down our ideas can really make them pop to life. Drawing an aura that generates enthusiasm for us to pursue them.

Sometimes, we can lose our interests in our goals if we keep them trapped in our compartmental brains. This is essentially a breeding ground for procrastination.

Step 2 | Spend Quality Time With Yourself:

In today’s age, we rarely find time for ourselves. It is quite difficult with school to attend, deadlines to meet, friendships to pursue, bills to pay, and children to raise. Then, we wrap up our busy lives with a TV show to kick back and relax.

I personally know that spending time to organize my mindset has helped me battle procrastination and provided me motivation to keep climbing toward my goals.

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When we spend quality time with ourselves, we can discover areas of weaknesses. Then, these areas that are critical to develop next become clearly visible.

Step 3 | Assess How Realistic Your Present Goals Are:           

When setting these goals, consider how realistic they are. Could a luxury car be purchased with only enough savings to afford a budget car? Can someone receive a masters degree before completing their bachelors, or would a new business owner launch a successful business in a highly saturated market? If we set up unrealistic goals that consumes vital time and energy, it may become discouraging to further our self-development.

Granted, fear to think creative can distort healthy thinking, creating an avenue for Limiting Belief to block our way. There are some goals that are achievable when we venture outside of the box.

Step 4 | Create A Timeline:

Timelines are great tools when seeking to improve who we are, they act like a guide and making goals more tangible. This is an important step that can present a clear idea of when personal goals should be accomplished. In addition, we will have the chance to develop our time management and organizational skills.

When I explored using schedules and giving myself deadlines, my productivity levels were improved significantly. In addition, this has led me to think more goal-orientated thoughts, feeding my fiery desire to achieve more goals in the future.

However, people who procrastinate heavily, may need to apply extra effort. When a realistic timeline is created for achieving goals, it can ignite and harness our focus to give us a purpose.

Step 6 | Prioritize Your Goals:

Here, I strongly urge you to consider applying SMART goals. The SMART acronym stands for, Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Reasonable and Timely. Being SMART will keep the paths to Self-Development clear, concise and should make our efforts more fruitful.

Prioritizing your goals are almost always a top priority. Humans are naturally goal-oriented beings where we desire to achieve short and/or long-term goals. It is our job to determine which goals require thorough or minimal attention. It may be best to combine this with Step 8 to gain additional clarification on what is really important for you.

Step 5 | Review The Goals You Have Set:

We should review our goals before attempting to pursue them. Initially, thoughts trapped in our heads may sound enticing, but may prove to be a waste of time. Ensuring goals are beneficial could save us valuable energy. In addition, if these goals contribute to others in a positive way, we should consider meeting their needs before our own.

With self-development, set goals that will last a lifetime. Carefully select skills, hobbies, or adapt unique personality traits that will elevate and give purpose. The best rule of thumb is to ask our-self the “What ifs”. “What if I became a blogger?” When looking at the what ifs, it will provide clarity on the goals that we desire to invest in.

Step 7 | Actively Monitor Your Progress:

A timeline is an exceptional fundamental tool to generate discipline, potentially teaching patience, a self-improvement tip we all need deep down. When looking towards self-development, creating a timeline may be a profoundly wise decision. With timelines, we must be conscious not to fully depend on them. I will use a conversation I had with a friend as an example:

This friend asked with curiosity why I was not dating. I then replied to them that I was waiting for the right time, granted this is not a terrible idea. After they heard my response they stated that I would miss my opportunity to find the “one”.

The message I attempted to portray is to not be grotesquely strict with yourself. The advice they shared with me that day was sturdy advice that I considered well after the conversation. However, I still choose to be single. That is personal topic for a personal story. If you want to hear the rest, gather around the campfire and bring the marshmallows.

Step 8 | Find Someone To Hold You Accountable:           

Let’s be honest here, if we are not naturally self-motivated then we may need a good mentor to encourage us to continue pushing. Without proper guidance, we risk procrastinating. Then, like a ripple effect we are at risk of quitting our own race before we get to the finish line to see our results!

Step 9 | Check Off Each Completed Goal On Our List :

This is the most exciting part of our self-development phase, checking off on what we have accomplished thus far. We are making progress! Be excited, let us enjoy our triumphant accomplishments! Get a glass of wine, read our favorite novel, hang out with our friends, because now we have the freedom to breathe.

For example, when I was recently using Udemy to learn business analytics, I got to watch the progress bar get closer to the certification trophy. This boosted my morale and assisted me with remaining consistent.

Step 10 | Do Not Give Up, Remain Motivated:

           “Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
– Harriet Beecher Stowe

Remain motivated! Despite the challenges that may come your way, know that the only time you lose is when you quit. If you keep trying, you may discover a champion within yourself.

Extra Step | Focus On Your Own Timeline

I personally believe we fail ourselves, when we look out the window and compare our lives with someone who seems to be in a better position than us. When we continue to focus on our own timelines our growth will bloom into beautiful lilies and great oak trees.

Thank you for reading my 10 essentials to Self-Development. If you enjoyed what you read and would like to share a bit of your own self-development story, leave a comment in the comment section.

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7 thoughts on “10 Essentials For Self Development

  1. I have learn that in my presuite for developing myself was to put others first then and only then I was able to see clearly what I needed for me . Your blog are very inspiring , you are like a motivation speaker love the post !!

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